The Secret: Learning to Love the Process

It happened again!

I made a plan.  I wrote down the plan.  I started the plan.  I lost my focus.  I haven’t seen the plan in two weeks!

I strive towards being a disciplined person.  I eat healthy.  I practice yoga most days.  I even balance my checkbook .  Well, I try to keep it balanced….in truth it may happen only half of the time.

I asked myself “why is it so hard to start a 10 minute daily mediation plan?”  My initial response is because “life” got in the way.  

I use this phrase because it sounds really good.  I have so many activities going on that I couldn’t possibly find 10 minutes in my day to meditate.  You can understand, right?

I believe the truth is that I am starting a new activity and it’s hard work.  It could also be because this activity requires practice and focus.

Have you ever found yourself in this situation?  You start something new…a fitness regime, house project, new diet or whatever….only to loose focus after the initial excitement wears off.

I asked myself, “so what are you going to do next?”  If I want a different outcome then I am going to need a different plan.

I was talking with a good friend who mentioned that they had a recommendation for our book club reading.  The Practicing Mind: Developing Focus and Discipline in Your Life – Master Any Skill or Challenge by Learning to Love the Process

I picked up the book and it really seems to be resonating with me.  The author, Thomas Sterner, reminds us that we need to

 “focus on the process, not the product that the process was meant to achieve”.  

He goes on further to explain:

“When your goal is to focus on the process and stay in the present, then there are not mistakes and judging.  You continue to use the final goal as a rudder to steer your practice session, but not as an indicator of how you are doing”.

I guess you can say that the light bulb went off for me.  I now realize why I lost my focus and become frustrated.  I was focusing all my efforts on the end goal instead of process of practicing these new behaviors.

Today, I will practice a new beginning.  I am making a new plan to focus on the process of meditation instead of the end result.  I look forward to seeing how this shift in focus changes my behaviors and attitude towards learning a new skill.

2018-05-01T00:30:43+00:00 By |related posts|